Friday, September 12, 2014

{this moment} - and the weekly {Smile-Up}

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"There are no ordinary moments." ~Way of the Peaceful Warrior

{no ordinary moments} - Photos capturing moments from the week. Simple, special, extraordinary moments.
 -  using Daily Gratitude to see the world as anything but ordinary. -

Served with the weekly {Smile-Up} - gratitude practices to love and appreciate your life. 

If you're inspired to do the same, leave a link to your 'moment' and 'smile up' in the comments to share with the world.
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{no ordinary moments} 

{my week of photos - 365 Grateful Project}




{Smile Up}:

My New place!!! Wooo!!!  
Setting up my new place and getting my creative space back! Super happy about this! 
Having my lil Lyla back living with me! Yay kitty cuddles!  
Finally finishing a new art piece! 
My lil sister's 7th birthday -- having all the siblings together ^_^
Playing on the playground with my sister and niece, getting to be a big kid ;)
Mornings getting to wake up next to the most amazing man Feeling so incredibly in love and lucky  
Meeting each other's families--lots of family dinners with my man  
Seeing my Grandma (first time in 6 years) and Aunt (first time in 18 years) from England 
Fixing broken relationships--feeling very blessed about this.    
Surprise visit from one of my best friends! Super happy about that! ^_^ 
  Random beach evenings and moments with my handsome 
New opportunities! 
Learning to stick up for myself and no longer being submissive
That my boyfriend is building me a bed frame! Yay! 
Small local shows -- live music for the win! 
Tea dates -- as always    


Loving: Sunshine • Stripey shirts • Thigh-high Socks • Twinkle lights • Layers • Family • Nutribullet • Luna Light • Free furniture • Pinterest Inspiration • 

Interests for the week:
Reading: blogs  
✯  Current Anime/Manga: None. :o
✯  TV Shows/Movies:  clearly not much media going on lately!
Music Playlist: In Flames. sMAshEArth. Puscifer. Sia. The Birthday Massacre. Plumb. The Invasives.
Food Faves: Daiya Pizza Coconut Ice Cream Apple Plum Crumble   Squash Vega Protein bars ♥ 


Lessons of the week: 
 Learning to stick up for myself and not be so submissive. Fully stepping into the fullest version of myself and not "filtering" myself (blog post from Thursday on this topic!). Healing broken relationships when the time is right. Everything can come full circle.   The power of gratitude is always a good reminder. Loving number synchronicity and paying attention to signs from our "guardian angels". ☀ 



Wishing you all an amazing day and plenty of magical moments! 
So much Love and Hugs! 



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Thursday, September 11, 2014

☺ Being Your Unfiltered Self ☺



Whenever there is one of those moments of life-realizations that jumps into my world it seems to become a reoccurring theme. Perhaps it's because my awareness has been tuned onto such an epiphany, or perhaps because it is something that I feel I really need to work on; more so, I believe it is because it is something that I Want to work on and situations begin to surround me to provide such opportunity to grow and learn. Regardless of reason, the topic of our "filtered" selves has been my recent reoccurrence. 

When you choose to be fully yourself, you often times can run into confrontational viewpoints from others. When we step into ourselves it's not always something that fits society, and therefore can make people uncomfortable, jealous, envious, or questioning. Even if it's not something that goes against the typical "norm" of society, society still teaches us to filter ourselves, that there are parts of ourselves that we should hide, that we should behave a certain way, that our emotions are often wrong. 

For myself, I am covered in tattoos, currently have pink hair, and have several piercings on my face; I dress somewhere between hippie, steampunk, punk, and casually "normal"--being a designer no doubt has an influence on my sense of ever-changing style. Because of these things, I'm not exactly a "normal" fit into our traditional bland society. For the most part, I embrace these sides of myself headstrong, positively, and with the upmost joy. And then I got to thinking… I Do filter myself. Even though I am covered in tattoos, when I am meeting certain people I start to dress differently. I love showing off my tattoos, not because I want to be showy but because I feel in my element and completely myself in the summer time wearing what I want when I want. But I filter myself around certain people. I might choose to wear something "pretty" or a little more "conservative" to offset the brash tattoos, piercings, and pink hair. It's not that I don't dress this way on some days regardless--it's not a "fake" side to me--but, in certain situations, I do so to seem more "normal". So, the realization dawned on me: I filter myself because all of a sudden I become self-conscious about Who I Am. My tattoos, my piercings, how I choose to dress may seem outward, even egotistical to some people, but for me they are self-expression (and I believe this is the same for many artistic, wondrous individuals). So why would I filter any part of myself because of another person? Fully stepping into Who I Am is important to me, it is something that I watch some people do seemingly so flawlessly (and perhaps people think I am the same way from the outside, I'm not sure), but I am envious and I strive to be so confident and comfortable. I filter myself when I think I need to try to impress someone, or downplay another person's perhaps more "traditional" or "normal" comfort-level of what people should look like. But that's not who I am. A filtered self is not who I want to be, it is not who I strive to be. 

Why wouldn't we want to step into our fullest selves? While the mentality of filtering ourselves may be automatic, perhaps even without too much thought, I invite you to realize that filtering yourself in any way is counter productive. Think about it. We tend to sensor ourselves when meeting new people, because we think we need to make a good impression--but that's not showing our true selves, and we should only want to be around people that want our true selves; and if we are stuck around people that don't, then we should embrace ourselves regardless. Plenty of times people filter and sensor themselves in new relationships, because we believe we need to be more "tame", perhaps not "crazy", to impress them. But what's the point? In the long run, you're lying about Who You Are, and in any case you should only Want to be with someone where you can be entirely and completely yourself. This goes for any kind of relationship: friends, boyfriends/girlfriends, family, work, etc. 
We spend so much of our time filtering the things we say, the way we act, the way we look in order to make the people around us more comfortable. We filter ourselves out of a need to not hurt anyone's feelings , offend anyone, or to avoid confrontation. While in our heads this may seem like a good idea, showing our shiniest, most well-behaved sides, this also gives us the mentality that our own feelings are second to everyone else's. 
On top of that, it also doesn't show people the Real You. And you should always strive to be the Truest version of yourself, because life is too short to be anything else or to surround yourself with people that don't embrace the True You. 


Now, I should clarify… Filtering ourselves doesn't mean you're not still feeling like yourself, it just means (and feels like) you are not the Fullest Version of Yourself. It's not that the behaviour is fake, it just means you're putting forth only the "good stuff" so to speak. I struggled with this for a long time when I strived so hard to have a Positive Mental Attitude at all times; believing that any negative feelings were not good and that I should not show those sides of myself. It began to feel as if I wasn't allowed to be negative ever. I since learned that lesson, especially in such a social-networking platform as both my blogs. People need to realize that we are all Human. People have All different sides to themselves; and that includes the people you are trying to impress or sensor yourself around. By being fully yourself, you also encourage those around you to do the same; and, again, life is too short for anything else. You are human, just as the people around you are, just as I am. Yes, sometimes we are glowing balls of energy and light and beaming smiles; other times we have sad thoughts and irrational thoughts, we get angry, jealous, envious, and hurt, and sometimes we get depressed. All of our emotions, all of our wants and needs exist whether we show them or not, and they are just as important as the wants and needs of the people around you. This is why filtering yourself is counterproductive; because it leaves the impression that those wants and needs aren't valid. Essentially, you devalue yourself.  


There are several problems with devaluing yourself, mostly because it attacks your self worth and can leave you feeling unworthy of the people and situations around you. The behaviour of filtering yourself is also not healthy because, in the end, you are only building walls around yourself and against the people in your life. The encouragement in this is to remind yourself that you Are amazing, and you don't need to filter yourself for Anyone. The more you embrace your own self-worth, the more people will embrace it as well, and the less you will feel the need to filter yourself anyway. Allow yourself to be vulnerable--because that's certainly how it will feel at first--so that you can have a healthy relationship with Your Self again, and therefore healthy relationships with the people around you. This is a step in personal growth, and it is still (in my opinion) one of the greatest ones to learn: the more love you have for yourself, the more love you have for life and the people in it. 

I know it's not always an easy thing to do; I, for one, have come to realize I have a bad habit of this. Inspire and encourage yourself to be the Fullest Version of Yourself at all times. Remember your own self-worth. Remember that to embrace yourself fully means to embrace life and happiness more fully. Life is too short not to fully accept, embrace, and value yourself, those around you, and life. 



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Saturday, August 30, 2014

{this moment} - and the weekly {Smile-Up}

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"There are no ordinary moments." ~Way of the Peaceful Warrior

{no ordinary moments} - Photos capturing moments from the week. Simple, special, extraordinary moments.
 -  using Daily Gratitude to see the world as anything but ordinary. -

Served with the weekly {Smile-Up} - gratitude practices to love and appreciate your life. 

If you're inspired to do the same, leave a link to your 'moment' and 'smile up' in the comments to share with the world.
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{no ordinary moments} 

{my week of photos - 365 Grateful Project}





 

{Smile Up}:

Hike with my handsome man ♥  Making it to flagpole! Woo!
Mornings with the boyfriend, waking up without any rushes. 
Tam putting on a concert just for me Gah! Talented musicians!    
Getting to catch up with one of my best friends now that she's back in town! 
Time with my two favourite local ladies - girl talk and fun 
Every time I see my furbabies    
Random adventures with my bestie
Playing my adorable nieces and seeing my sister 
Getting to talk to my littlest sister   
All the ridiculously sweet things Tam does for me -- and cheers me up on a bad day
Clearing out awful "friends"/people from my life
Pink Hair! ^_^
Finishing my market season with a blast!
Bumping into friends I haven't seen in a while
All the amazing support I have had through this huge life transition
Finishing packing up and ready to move! Woo! 


Loving: Epic Thunderstorms • Different Hair Colours • Hikes • Fashion Layers • Sweet Moments • The Art of Sketch • Pretty You and Me • Mucisians • 

Interests for the week:
Reading: random blogs  
✯  Current Anime/Manga: None. :o
✯  TV Shows/Movies:  mmm… also none lately.
Music Playlist: Autolux. sMAshEArth. Summer Kill. Hollywood Undead. In Flames. Brand New.
Food Faves: Daiya Pizzas Taco Salad Mountain Magic Cookies   Avocado Mousse BeanField Chips Kale Chips Homemade Waffles


Lessons of the week: 
 Sweet, thoughtful gestures and actions bring smiles; so give and receive. Remember to be your own Self-Motivator! Writing is the best medicine to release thoughts, angers, and wisdoms.   There will always be people who gossip--don't sink down to their level; brush yourself off and keep being awesome--let their own misery is their own problem…
From my amazing friend: "Anyone who has something to say about your life is clearly lacking any sense of fulfilment in their own.
No one EVER has any right to comment on how you live yours. It's simply none of their business. What they think is meaningless and simply proof of the unsatisfied hole in their own lives." ☀ 


Wishing you all the plenty of magical moments and an amazing week ahead! 
So much Love and Hugs! 



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Thursday, August 28, 2014

☺ "Against Balance" ☺

We hear about balance a lot in our day-to-day struggle to be human, to do our best, and to find our calm and our perfect bliss in our lives. When a lovely woman in my own life shared this piece, I couldn't help but pass it along. I think it sums up the idea and struggle with "balance" perfectly. 
I hope you enjoy! 



Against BALANCE...

 Dear Ones -

 The other night at my event in St Paul, a young woman asked me about how I achieve balance in my life.

 First of all, I love that she thinks I have achieved balance in my life!

 Secondly, I felt the need to speak out once more against the subtle tyranny of the word BALANCE, which I think haunts and punishes modern women more and more every day. 

 We are constantly being told that we should be achieving balance — that we should somehow exquisitely be negotiating the relationships between our work lives, our home lives, our romantic lives, our health and well-being, our spiritual selves. You can't read an interview with a famous woman these days that the journalist does not applaud her for having achieved BALANCE....and then if you turn the pages of that magazine, you will find ten more articles showing how you can achieve balance. too!

 Be careful. 

 The word BALANCE has tilted dangerously close, I fear, to the word PERFECT — another word that women use as weapons against themselves and each other. 

 To say that someone has found the secret to a balanced life is to suggest that they have solved life, and that they now float through their days in a constant state of grace and ease, never suffering stress, ambivalence, confusion, exhaustion, anger, fear, or regret. Which is a wonderful description of nobody, ever. 

 Balance, when we do find it, is a breathtakingly temporary condition. We stand upon a world that spins at 2000 miles an hour. Our minds, meanwhile, spin at 200,000 miles an hour. We collide every day with other humans who are also sliding and spinning wildly. The landscape of our lives, therefore, changes by the minute. You find your balance one day and think, "Hooray! I have solved it" and then five minutes later the world utterly transforms again, and you're knocked on your ass one more time.

 That's just how life is on this planet — messy, fast, out of control, unpredictable. It's all terribly interesting, but also terribly unstable. 

 That being the case, I dropped the myth of BALANCE a long time ago. (I buried it right next to PERFECT.) My life seems happiest — as I tried to explain to this young woman the other night — when I just surrender to the madness, and embrace the glorious mess that I am...and also when I embrace the glorious mess that everyone else is, and the glorious mess of the world itself. My life gets the most painful when I try to set the entire mess (myself other people, life itself) into order. 

 The world is like a dropped pie most of the time. Don't kill yourself trying to put it back together. Just grab a fork and eat some of it off the floor. Then carry on.

 If you can get some stuff done in the chaos sometimes, god bless you. If you can basically hold it together, propping yourself up with duct tape and glue, rock on. If you can manage stay upright even one hour a day, you're doing pretty great, as far as I'm concerned. And if you can be kind to the other stumbling fools around you half the time — well, that's just heroic. 

 Basically, I think we are all just sloppy stupendous champions.

 Onward!

Heart,

LG


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